28 Rules for Fathers of Sons

1. Love his Mother. He will learn to love like you love, and hate like you hate. So choose love for both of you. Devote yourself to it. Love with your whole heart and express that love each and every day. Then, someday down the road, you will see the way he loves his own wife, and know that you played a part in that.

2. Let him drive. Every child remembers the first time they drove on daddy’s lap. For that one moment, he will believe that he is just. like. you. 

3. Teach him to be picky. Especially when it comes to women and burgers. Teach him to never settle.

4. Take him to a ball game. There is something about sharing a day of hot dogs, sunshine and baseball with your father.

5. Love with Bravery. Boys have this preconceived notion that they have to be tough. When he is young, he will express his love fully and innocently. As he grows, he will hide his feelings and wipe off kisses. Teach him to be a man who rubs them in instead. It takes courage for a man to show love: teach him to be courageous.

6. Talk about sex. Sometimes, boys need to know that all men are created equal.

7. Teach him to be a man’s man. Show him how to be brave and tough around the guys. Then, remind him on the ride home that it is okay to cry.

8. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let him tell you about girls, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. He is not only your son, you are not only his father. Be his friend too.

9. Teach him manners. Because sometimes you have to be his father, not just his friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

10. Teach him when to stand-up and when to walk away. He should know that he doesn’t have to throw punches to prove he is right. He may not always be right. Make sure he knows how to demand respect- he is worthy of it. It does not mean he has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence.

11. Teach him to choose his battles. Make sure he knows which battles are worth fighting- like for family or his favorite baseball team. Remind him that people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help him to understand when to shut his mouth and walk-away. Teach him to be the bigger better person.

12. Let him dance in tighty whiteys. Dance alongside him in yours. Teach him that there are moments when it is okay to be absolutely ridiculous.



13. Share music. Introduce him to the classics and learn the words to the not-so-classics. Create a rock band with wooden instruments, share your earphones, and blast Pink Floyd in the car. Create a soundtrack to your lives together.

14. Let him win. Sometimes he needs to know that big things are possible.

15. Teach him about family. Let him know family is always worth fighting for. Family is always worth standing up for. At the end of the day, he has you to fall back on, and pray to God that you will have him.

16. Father him. Being a father—to him—is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with him the joys of fatherhood, so one day he will want to be a father too. Remind him over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love him like you love him.

17. Listen to him now. If you don’t listen to the little things now, he won’t share the big things later.

18. Let him try on your shoes. Even if they are old and smelly. Let him slip his little feet in and watch him as he hopes like hell that someday he can fill them. He will fill them.



19. Give him bear hugs. The kind that squeezes his insides and make him giggle. The kind of hug only a daddy can give.

20. Give him baths. Because Mom can’t do everything damnit.

21. Teach him how to pee standing up. Let him pee outside- such is the joy of being a man. Mom cannot teach this talent, so someone has to.

22. Know the answers. He will assume you do. If you don’t know them, pretend you do and look them up later.

23. Toss him around. Because little boys love seeing the strength of their father. Throw him up in the air, so that he knows you will always be there to catch him on his way down.

24. Ask his mother. He will come to you with questions that he won’t always want to ask his mother, about girls and about love. Ask her anyway, she will know the answers.

25. Love him like you would love a daughter. Little girls are not the only ones who need hugs and kisses. Love is the color yellow of emotions. It is both happy and gender neutral.

26. Grow a big belly. Because every child should get the chance to rest their head on the absolute softest pillow ever. Daddy’s belly is the best place to land.

27. Don’t say, do. American inventor Charles F. Kettering once said, “every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice.” Be a good one.

28. Be his hero. You are anyway. To him, you have the strength of Batman, the speed of Spiderman and the brain of Ironman. Don’t disappointment. Prove to him that Daddy’s are the biggest heroes of all. Only Daddy’s can save the day. 

After all, good fathers make good sons.

Sarah D. ~Diapers & Daisies

PS. She certainly didn’t ask me to do this, but if you loved her post as much as I did, I bet she’d love it if you shared her post and liked her blog page on Facebook!

BlessingS y'all!!
Carol aka MJ
Psm 138:8

I got this message the other mornin in my Facebook inbox. I just couldn't stop thinkin about it, so i asked her if I could share it. This is one of the biggest reason I feel so strongly about the music the Lord has given me.

Message from My friend Angela:
Have to tell ya how much your music helped last night, our little Ty had to be rushed to emergency for an asthma attack and driving there the air was tense with worry so I put on your cd. It helped take his little mind off the fact he couldn't barely get his breath as we listened to your familiar music. What a blessing, I knew there was a reason I always keep it in the cd player, maybe I should put one in all our vehicles! Ty's much better now, thank the lord!!!  Blessings and thanks so much for all you do.

I'm grateful for all the things the Lord is letting me be a part of. His plans are always bigger than mine. I'm in awe of His LoVe!!
BlessingS, I sure do love y'all!!
Carol/MJ
Psm 138:8

I think I had a revelation this mornin. I've been workin hard this year to break the habit of judging folks. I've never thought I was bad about doing that till The Lord started showing me some things. I was reading a post on FB and suddenly realized I've been judging myself... WoW Maybe that's what HE has been tryin to get through to me...

Here's part of the post:

Stop judging, and appreciate the beauty within you. – Judging yourself is not the same as being honest with yourself.  When it comes to living as a compassionate, non-judgmental human being, the only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own.  In every smile there is beauty.  In every heart there is love.  In every mind there is wisdom.  In every human being there is a soul, there is life, there is worth, and there is the ability to see all these things in everyone, including one’s self.

Thank you Sir for being so patient with me...

BlessingS my friends. I believe if we feel good about ourselves others will want to be around us. Then we can show them "Just A Touch Of LoVe"!!

Carol a/k/a MJ

Psalm 138:8

Oh what a blessed time we had in Canada with our claimed family, Ron, Lorna and their girls and families. We always feel so at home when we are there with them. They really spoil us to be honest. I'm so very grateful and honored to be a part of what they are doing at their ranch.

We had quite a diverse group of people there this year. The ones I want to share with you are the children, imagine that... 

There's nothing I love much more than listening to children laugh and play. There is a play ground and sitting area with a fire ring right outside my bungalow window. Every morning I would wake to the sound of children laughing and playing on the merry-go-round Ron built. Every night I would go to sleep with the sounds of people enjoying the camp fire and visiting and yes children laughing.

Ron & Lorna thanked me more than once for coming. All the while all I could think of was how I should be thanking them, and I did. 

Friday night we sang and had a service in the barn. There were two young women with their little girls and their mother there. They sat up at the front to the right side of me. I had not met them and had only heard a little of their story. Mind you I have to hear it more than once for it to stick in my mind, LoL. Anyway as I was singing the babies began to dance. The mother's would get up and pick them up to stop them and they would get right back down and dance some more. If you know me at all, you know that did not bother me. I love to watch them and the way they were dancing you could tell that they were feeling the Lord in their little spirits. I told the Moms please don't worry about it they are not bothering me, I love it!! There was also another little girl there with them. She didn't know the other two little girls, but they all acted as if they did. 

Well come to find out those women are from Morocco and they know very very little English. The children and grandmother don't really know any. I was told that they are Muslims. The mothers would set in the services and cry not even knowing what was being said. I was so drawn to them. They always had a smile for me.

I guess what I'm trying to relate to y'all is when you are drawn by the Spirit of the Lord words don't matter... 

When we were saying good bye to everyone Sunday afternoon, that's when I realized they didn't understand what I was saying. But everyone understands LoVe. One of the little girls even blew me a kiss.

I'm so grateful that the Lord will let me be used in such a way. To allow me to love on His kids. To sing His praises to His people. To share Jesus with them and watch folks accept Him as their Savior. People who have been in church their whole lives and didn't know they had to ask Him in. Thank you, thank you, thank you Sir for allowing me to be a part of these things.

Well I hope this made sense. There was so much more that happened there it would take a week to tell you all of it. I just want to thank you all for your prayers and financial support. We couldn't do what we do without you. When we go we take you with us in our hearts...

LoVe ya'll,
BlessingS
Carol a/k/a MJ
Psalm 138:8

When we were kids, we had just enough clothes for everyday of the week. We had school clothes, play clothes and church clothes. You never wore your school clothes to play in or vice versa. I thought that was just the way it was, so I never thought anything about it.

My Daddy and Momma were really hard workers. As I look back I know now how they must have struggled to provide for my three siblings and I. I have two older sisters and a baby brother.

One thing I can say for sure, we didn't always match, but we were always clean and ironed. Momma even ironed Daddy's handkerchiefs.

I can remember in third grade I needed a new pair of shoes. Somebody gave them a pair of little boys dress shoes. Well...they fit me. I was just getting to that age to notice that kind of thing. You know how cruel other kids can be. I don't remember every complaining about to them though. I guess I was just happy to have shoes.

I always loved getting a sack full of hand me downs though, and I still do really. Not that I don't enjoy the blessing of the new ones God provides for me. I think I'm just now figuring out why I am the way I am.

I'm a little bit of a clothes hog and I LOVE shoes. As I was getting dressed this morning I was thinking about all this. I was pushing on those clothes as hard as I could to get them back to hang something up. MAN.... I'm blessed!!! I HAVE because I GIVE!! I'm not stingy one bit!! Never have been, pray I never will be.

I'm so grateful for all HE does to provide for me and mine.

Just thinking.... LoL

Y'all have a GREAT day too! BlessingS
Carol/MJ
Psalm 138:8

I'm a tither and a giver so according to the Bible, why wouldn't I be blessed?

Bring all the tithes into the storehouse, That there may be food in My house, And try Me now in this,” Says the Lord of hosts, “If I will not open for you the windows of heaven And pour out for you such blessing That there will not be room enough to receive it. (Malachi 3:10 NKJV)

I'm countin on it Sir! I'm experiencing it more and more everyday. I'm so grateful for all I have to share and take care of my family with. YOU ROCK LORD

I am exceedingly abundantly blessed!!

BlessingS on y'all too!!
Carol/MJ